Pity for Kellyanne Conway

Kellyanne Conway is the subject of much criticism lately.

Some of it necessary – her lies about Donald Trump and his administration’s activities. 

Some of it disgusting – her appearance. (Most of the photos available of her are deliberately “bad photos.”)

I wanted to take a minute to articulate what a day in her life might be like:

She is probably more “on call,” more always working, 24/7, than Donald Trump himself.

Think about how poorly Donald Trump has been treating people — mocking disabled people, accusing Mexicans, disrespecting women, yelling at reporters, criminalizing immigrants  — I can almost guarantee that he treats Kellyanne Conway the same way and maybe much, much worse. I’ve seen parallel situations with my own eyes. 

Did you see her extreme discomfort around him at the ball the evening he was inaugurated? She appeared to be scared of him and did not want him touching her. 

It’s easy for us to say that she is willing to lie for the money, puts up with any abuse from Donald Trump for the money, but it might be that she is essentially stuck in a very abusive relationship.

Have you considered that?

Have you considered how Donald Trump might be abusing Kellyanne? Kellyanne could well be another victim of Trumpism – maybe she doesn’t realize it? Or, maybe she is fully aware (well, as aware as possible, given that 98 percent of human thought is beyond what we can even know or understand) and voluntarily perpetuates Trumpism.

No matter what, we live in a sexist society – and Kellyanne has been a victim of sexism since the doctors said, “It’s a girl.” 

What do you think?

Dr. Andrew Joseph Pegoda

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5 replies

  1. Research has shown that people criticize women more than men when they become public figures. They hold women up to a higher standard than men. Both women and men are more likely to criticize a woman, especially for appearance. People are really angry these days, too, so who will bear the brunt? Anyone who is not beautiful or handsome and looking perfect. That goes for both men and women.

    Notice that people said early in the election year that Hilary did not smile. And Trump did? At some point they stopped criticizing her for this, or maybe the newspeople I watched refused to talk about it and I just missed the arrows. Kellyanne is very bright and although I cannot fathom why she stayed with Trump, she really tries to put him in a good light. There are times she makes sense but clearly only to his supporters. The “alternative facts” statement was really revealing. I do not think that his team understands what “truth” means, let alone what the word “fact” means. She probably does believe a lot of what she says, but I have seen times when clearly she is uncomfortable with some of it, especially when she appears on CBS morning show.

    Trump admitted that he doesn’t think much of women, but he will hire them because they work hard, implying that they work harder than men, which is highly likely, since they tend not to get credit due them. It doesn’t matter who the boss is. The women who worked for Obama decided to do something about that. Whenever they met with him the women would make sure that when one of them said something, it did not get drowned out by male voice, and that she got the credit for an idea, even when some men tried to grab the credit. They backed each other up enough so that by the end of his term, the M:F sex ratio of those invited to the meeting was closer to 1:1 compared to 9:1 in the beginning of his term.

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    • Very true, Dr. Hyde. I wonder how the media and general public would react to a “Kellyanne” who was “conventionally attractive” and younger. Someone like Megyn Kelly comes to mind. She lies plenty but doesn’t get the same kind of criticism; although, of course, she’s not in the same kind of powerful position.

      During class discussions, I have to always be careful that the male students don’t interrupt the female students. But it happens! Often, sometimes!

      Women in our society are generally “trained” to not speak.

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  2. I find it odd and demeaning that you would comment on her appearance unless you are being sarcastic, of course, because that’s exactly how Trump has described women’s appearance. 2. I do not pity her. I blame her. She is capable, intelligent, and knows exactly what she’s doing. She empowered Trump to win the election. And now we all have to pay for it.

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  3. You know, Dr. Pegoda, about the men interrupting women: I heard that men process women’s voices as music and men’s as content. That is why they most often interrupt women rather than men. They are busy working on content. Music is just distracting. Now, this comment about “men” is just a generalization, and I have no idea what the statistics are that led to this statement, nor if any statistics were ever collected. However, many sensitive people have noticed this problem and commented on it. And it is not impossible for people to learn how to be sensitive towards it and change their behavior. I have been the victim, even by men who I consider friends. Faculty meetings are particularly frought with this behavior, especially because most science departments have male chairs. Given the rather competitive nature of academia, there are a lot of peacocks.

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